how to tell sb that she smells

[Cate]

Here's the problem: Since the summer we'e got a new student in our class who really stinks! That's ot the only problem with her but it's deffinitely the most evident one...

Im my class mot of the pupils don't even try to integrate her or to be nice to her and honestly...I actually also don't want to work or be friends with her but you got to be social so I thought maybe I should try to tell her that she smells in a friendly way and give her the possibillity of changing that but how do you possibly do that?

I mean It's better to confront her than to gossip behind er back and everything...isn't it?

Please help my guys...well girls, actually^^
I seriously don't know what to do!!

[SwornObssessor]

oh yowza.....I have no idea what I would do in that situation........hopefully someone else can help XD

Just try to think of how you would want someone to tell you you are malodorous....haha

[angellaura]

Maybe you could buy her some strong perfume or deodorant? Then befriend her and then tell her If you are gonna tell her then do it away from anyone else and be really gentle and try not to make a huge deal out of it maybe joke about yourself not smelling to good occasionally ;D

[Chibi Laura Monkey]

DON'T buy perfume. Perfume merely enhances your natural scent.

It's possible that the kind of the soap or shampoo or even moisturizer the girl uses is what's making her smell so bad, or perhaps she wears too much perfume (probably crappy perfume, if it smells bad.)

[layla4dan]

i can realte to that. my deoderant was crap, and i was like that. But i never got told, so it didn't help me.
However i think telling someone to thier face instead of not saying could make it worse. I was convinced people were always talking about me.
it turned out it was a medical thing. so i sorted it. Doctors are a last resort but they helped me, and hopefully could help this girl.

I'd tell her. Good luck!=)

[Cate]

I actually bought a nice shower gel and a purfume today intending to confront her...but (fortunately) another girl from my class (Mel) had the same thought and was quicker to talk to her. She asked to speak her in private and genly asked her if she had any problems and that It occured to some in the class that she sometimes smells (which is the greatest understatement of the century) and she actually freaked out and draged her to theprincipal accusing her of mobbing and anyhing. For him it was also a difficult situation because anyone could smell her. So her started talking about him taking a shower every day and so on .
So she freaked out onec again and cried that even the teachers would say that she stank...

Lucky me that I was so indecisive!

Nevertheless...thanks for the advice. You are so ready to help...tanks again.